Due to a special media invite, we had the opportunity to attend the open community forum entitled: “Can A Woman Raise A Man?” This past Saturday at the University of Downtown Houston. It consisted of a panel of exclusively women with a few guests such as “Trae Tha Truth” and a former licensed therapist who gave talks to mainly the women of the audience. This event was created to engage the single women of the community and provided a “Safe Space” for them to speak and obtain information and tips on how to raise their sons. But the problem is that women can’t “raise” boys to be men no more than a man can raise a girl to be a woman.
The women on the panel expressed their personal triumphs and failures when it came to being a single mother with boys. As we listened to their stories, it was easy to see how and why these women became single mothers. Now we want you to understand something. This article is meant to not only highlight this community forum in general, but this article was written to express why we have so many women end up being single mothers raising boys in the first place.
One of the women on the panel expressed that her dad was too “aggressive” and that she didn’t feel like he was the best father in a nutshell. But the question is what makes a good father? This is where things get sticky because there is no universal standard as to what a good father is. A man’s job as a husband and father is to simply secure, protect, provide, and direct. That’s it. But for so many women, they just can’t stand being under any man’s authority - even if it’s their own father.
When it comes to women being able to submit to the rule of men in their personal relationships to include their father’s especially in this case; women like this are doomed to encounter single motherhood which has a unique set of adverse consequences. Another woman on the panel stated her ex-husband used to engage in domestic violence. But as studies show, domestic violence is almost always bi-directional often times with the woman being the aggressor in some shape or form in the first place.
There was another panelist, that stated that the father of her son simply walked out because she refused to have sex with him as well as her refusing to meet the domestic needs and his requirements as an authority figure in their relationship. Quite frankly, he should’ve walked away because what good is a woman who is supposed to be a helpmate to her spouse when she can’t even fulfill the basic necessities that any man would want in a relationship; especially when it's demanded by society that he must take care of his family by all means or face the application of social sanctions.
See, the women on the panel and the women in the audience who agree with these women are far and large single. In fact, one woman on the panel expressed that she has five children. What single man who’s on the up and up would commit to that? The answer is no man who is worth their salt will. Especially when there is a younger, better-looking woman that willing to get in his program.
We didn’t hear not one woman on the panel take the fault for any of the adverse situations they have found themselves in and subjected their sons to which is proof positive of the destructive role single motherhood has played in wrecking not only the homes of single women, but the collective community at large. Adding insult to injury these women knew of the consequences of being a single mother and not one opted to give their sons to their father so they can be raised to be men despite the fact that only a man can raise a man. It just seemed like there was always some excuse; “he was on drugs”, “he was abusive”, “he just left”, “men are touching and molesting their sons”, or the most famous – “I didn’t know he was like that” excuse.
It’s time that we start aggressively canceling and muting the idea of single motherhood as single motherhood is not only a social blight, but it is a drain on the economy and produces nothing but bad news for a society in general. As always please feel free to enjoy the photos below.
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