Body positivity is a farce and here's why; because it's the only body you’ll ever get, and you don't have any other options to choose from. I'm quite sure that no one takes pride in being obese. This applies for both men and women. To be considered obese is to be considered undisciplined. I'm a slightly overweight guy myself. I am 6 '0 tall, I wear a size 40 in pants and an x-large in t-shirts and I’m aware of my weight and will push the plate back because I know I can lose some pounds.
However, even in knowing that I can stand to lose weight, it doesn't mean that I get to go around and demanding and socially bullying people into “accepting me for who I am”. Nor does me being overweight gives me the license to shame into guilt and silence because they adhere to the natural standards of beauty that is pretty much the same (with a few cultural variations) around the world.
In short, what I'm telling you is if you think it's ok for you to be obese that's ok, but please for the love of all things sacred don’t use your fame and influence to demonstrate to women - especially young women that it's ok for them to be obese. It's simply not healthy. And your image whether you know it or not does more social harm to women then you could ever know. We all know that you have a job to do, and you must “get the bag” (so tired of hearing that cliché); but at what expense to the general population? Female comedian Monique ran around with the “big and beautiful” campaign for years and look at what she looks like now. I firmly suspect even she is not going back to being obese. Another example would be Jennifer Hudson, John Goodman, Drew Carey, Missy Elliott, Al Roker and so many others.
What's the point of all of this outside of money? Quite simply people and relationships. I'm not here to criticize, I'm here to enlighten. Women need men and men need women. And if men generally speaking don't want an obese woman, then what kind of men are left for these women to choose from. Generally, not quality and well to do men and I can say this because there isn't an extremely large line of men lined up around the world who actually want to marry obese women. Secondly, as the Houston Texas attorney Dennis Spurling would say: "the biology will dictate the psychology”. Meaning that in the case of men, men typically like younger, more physically fit thus more physically attractive women.
For men this translates into “does her genes look good enough to bear my children?”. And if you are using your celebrity to promote out of control, obese women with a grossly hyper inflated sense of self confidence then you are indeed doing the entire human race a disservice. I'm saying this because besides a woman generally declines in looks as she ages because she loses her “youthfulness”. Also keep in mind that a woman's body weight is often time her number one barrier which stops her from obtaining the best man she could’ve obtain had she been smaller. So, it can be said that a woman that fails to keep her weight in check will have a direct adverse impact on the society at large.
Again. Lizzo. Please. Stop.
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