Written by Soibi Gilbert “African Cinderella”
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Does he love me? Does he not? Are these nothing more than breadcrumbs? Or are they not? during my time of dating in Houston, Texas; I’ve learned a thing or two things about men. There are some men out there that set a tone and pace and they tend to consistently keep up with it. These types of men tend to be as consistent as they are not only because they have a sense of who you are and what you like, but because they are so invested in you, they just want you to see you happy.
In contrast, there are other men out there that tend to set a tone and pace they can’t keep up with. And when men are inconsistent in this fashion, they tend to end up wasting their own time and that of the woman. Ultimately, this leads to both people prolonging the necessary time it takes for them to find their “Soulmates” in this weird world of dating. Another thing that I would like to mention is the fact that there are a lot of men out there who will feed a woman “breadcrumbs”, much like a cruel overseer would do to a slave. What’s funny about this is when the woman gains the courage to walk away from this kind of manipulator, the man who employs this kind of manipulative tactic will expect her to come running back when he senses moral decay in the relationship.
For me as a single woman in the dating market, it’s almost disgusting how men like the ones mentioned here view us as toys and/or children. Now don’t get me wrong, what I mean here is that, It’s almost as if they only see us as something for their immediate sexual gratification and in doing so they tend to miss out on our true value as women in the dating market. Put another way, men that fall into the categories mentioned here tend to love the immediate sense of being able to dictate how, and when to take away what we want as women while making our life a living hell in the process. I tend to think that men like the ones mentioned here do this because we as modern women have grown to acquire a sense of value of self and exercise our ability to walk away from men like this without feeling bad for doing so.
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Men, if you listening out there; we women are human beings and we’re not to be considered toys in which you can enjoy when it's convenient and totally discard when you’re done “playing” with us. We women are like delicate flowers and should be treated as such. Women today are crying in silence, and when we do it’s because we feel as if we are being either misunderstood and/or taken for granted. But ironically, even in the midst of our silent crying sessions, it can seem like many men out there simply don’t care. Insensitivity like this coming from men in the dating market invites more chaos into a women's lives than order. When this happens, it makes us women feel as if the men in our lives never really loved us in the first place, even though they may have professed that they do/did.
I really would like for the men out there to talk to us women and let us know why we are feeling and facing the things that we are feeling and facing in the dating market. On that note, I want to leave a question out there for the men who care enough to answer: “Do you really love us? Or are you "breadcrumbing us?”
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